Replacing Repression with Lament
I struggled with grieving after my miscarriage. I had only known I was pregnant for one week. I was only five weeks along when it happened. I had friends who had lost pregnancies at further along than I was, and I knew people who had experienced late term losses, stillbirth, and infant loss. So when I started spotting, when I knew that this pregnancy wasn’t going to stick, I already began a dialogue in my head that was contrary to grieving. It’s so early. It’s not even far enough along for there to be a heartbeat yet. If you hadn’t taken an early test, you wouldn’t have even known you were pregnant. So many people have had losses much worse than this. Chemical pregnancies and miscarriage are so common. It shouldn’t be that big of a deal. But it was. We had been trying for almost a year. We had been through infertility testing for months already. We had a consult with a fertility specialist. We had been about to...